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How to Prepare for Your First Child

Starting a family is no small challenge – whatever your age, whatever your circumstance, nothing can quite prepare a parent for the rigmarole of their first child around the house. You simply learn as you go.
The act of giving birth and the pregnancy that comes before it is a huge stressor, for the mother especially, but for everyone involved. Even adoption can be particularly tough. That doesn’t change the fact however that, even though total preparation is impossible, there are always ways that you, your partner and your family can get ready. Here are four.

1. A Babyproof Home

Washing up liquid in easy reach? Plug socket next to the playpen? Dust, mould or worse around the house? Time to make some changes: A baby proof home doesn’t have to be a padded set of walls, but it does have to engage common sense. A young child is curious about everything, and they’ll often explore the world with their mouth. And as much as we might like to as parents, we can’t keep our eyes on a baby 24/7, so keep medicines out of reach, sharp objects up on shelves and your child safe.

2. Call in the Reinforcements

There’s no shame in asking for help. In fact, it’s the smart thing to do, as we read at When preparing for a new addition to the family your existing support system is your failsafe. They’re your safety net. Talk to your friends. Talk to your siblings. Talk to your own parents. Ask them for advice, ask them to babysit, ask them to donate any old clothes, cribs or paraphernalia that could be of use.
One of the best ways to make use of these reinforcements is to find time for yourself. Parenting is exhausting. If you have someone you can trust to watch the child once it arrives then do so. Get out of the house, stretch your legs, see some sunshine. Hell, even just take a nap.

3. A Balanced Lifestyle

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Introducing a balanced lifestyle – one that involves three meals, exercise, deep sleep and activities you enjoy. A new baby can be all-consuming, but it doesn’t need to be. Once you know your family is set to gain a new member, make some plans. Talk to your partner about each other’s needs, about work, about cleaning. Share responsibilities and lean on one other. You might just want twenty minutes a day to play a round of roulette at, with the option to play on live streaming allowing you for some social interaction too. You might just want to go for a jog. Make time for your partner to live a life beyond parenting and get them to do the same for you.

4. Self-care and Love

One of the most important things you can do for yourself and your family before the baby arrives is to be kind. You’re going to make mistakes. You’re going to miss things. You’re a human being – likely running on very little sleep and huge amounts of caffeine. Parenting is a learning process and it’s important to remember that.
A new child is wonderful responsibility, but it’s not one that should ever be taken lightly. Prepare where you can and learn where you can’t!